Letting go doesn't mean giving up, it means accepting that some things weren't meant to be.
I was going to write something completely different for this week’s blog, in fact I was twisting my head around what to write about; then this came up. I want to talk more about money and the cycle of currency. This is a money mindset lesson I learned on Tuesday night during and after my shift. The strength of money is vast. I even heard a coworker recently state that she hates money. This goes back to money mentality from a previous post, but it’s interesting how this energy can really getcha! Especially when it come to the loss or theft of this money energy. The pain is so great that as a natural reaction we resort to anger. Well I take full accountability for my loses and thefts because I’m the individual that put myself in situations where I was taken from. It’s all to do with the consciousness or awareness of our surroundings.
It didn’t take much for me to lose consciousness of the energy I was in charge of: money. Being money-conscious is a wavelength on it’s own that, on this particular evening, I was not a part of. After a shift of dis-ease, I ended up losing a large quantity of money that left me going home with zero and more to pay out the store. It’s really really difficult to overcome a defeat like that. But at the time, it’s all said and done and nothing more could really become of it. The fact is that is just happened. What’s that famous phrase that Forrest Gump apparently coined?... Anyhow, after a day of sulking I’ve come to realize that this isn’t a defeat. I’m not fighting a war, and if I were, no one is winning.
Everything that’s taken from us is pain. In turn, everything we give or receive is a gift. Whether we like it or not, these gifts serve a purpose. I’m sure that someone found the money and decided to keep it. Who wouldn’t?, it’s cash money! Serendipity, baby! I know some are honest to turn it in and whether or not that may be... is a different point. The purpose is not that it was taken from me. I’ve had things taken away from me, and who hasn’t? From personal belongings to experiences to emotions can all be taken from us. Granted I don’t care for or appreciate being taken from. Rarely do I put myself in a position where people can rob of me. As when it does happen, I simply let it be. How often I have said that phrase is no accident. Truth, Paul McCartney?
By letting go, I’m not giving up or giving in but rather gifting into the flow of universal energy. These things, these possessions we have; do they really belong to us? It’s owned so it must never leave our grasp until it’s used up, juiced and ready to keel over. It’s a matter of holding on that keeps the flow from flowing. It’s like sailing a ship upwind: there’s not as much control, it’s more challenging to enjoy the journey, and to reach the destination should there be one. Sailing down wind; it’s easier to sway, there’s less resistance and one is able to enjoy the beauty of the ocean just by letting the ship be in flow. Which more sounds like a path for you? Upwind or downwind?
Money is the most powerful and influential source of energy we have. It’s the official bartering tool traded for goods & services, experiences and possessions. It’s no wonder it’s called “currency.” As the flows of the current take one to lands of beauty, I choose to let the money flow knowing that there is enough for everyone. The money I lost on Tuesday night went into to flow as someone may have needed it more than I. Thinking of being able to let it go and gifting it back into universal flow is a blessing. Thinking of holding on to it only makes me feel angry and bitter. Sad and sorrow. I trust the energy of that money upon it receipt will truly serve that person. I’m also confident that by my gifting it, it comes back to me. Well, it was found the next day by coworker and returned to management. I was able to receive it on my next shift. I am fortunate to have gotten it back. Though it never left the store, would I have had this insightful experience to share?
Why is it that human beings are so vulnerable to being taken from? Being able to feel that emotion let's us know we are alive. It was amazing the strength I had when I first realized it was gone. Two lovely gals I work with asked me how I can smile after what had just happened. I wasn’t sure myself, really, other than the fact that I know that all is laughable and not worth giving into anger. Yes, that does sound Jedi, yet is it not truth? After a day of dwelling, conversation and meditation, I’ve moved past it all. When we are stolen from, yes it does hurt. Consider it a gift to the universe like you just made a donation to noble cause. Just know that takers tend not to make it out of life alive. Givers gain. Holding on to that flow by holding on to the anger of loss is taking; stopping flow. Just let go and stay the course like Luke just used the force.
Friday, August 27, 2010
Friday, August 20, 2010
Luck Is Just a Little of It
Everything is we do in life based on feeling and then backed with logic. This is the way people tip. The whole idea of service is to give of self. In fact, deserve is a derivative term meaning ‘of service.’ The feeling you put out is that which you receive back. People tip monetarily based solely upon how they feel about themselves. This is something I’ve said to my coworkers for the past year. Though it’s perceived as pain, it’s absolutely nothing to do with you! A person can distinguish themselves as a person with a high value and look for the value in others, such as yourself, even when you might be having a bad day. The same goes with those with a low self worth. Do you think that someone with a low self worth has any worth in their wallet? And they’re sure not giving what little they have to you regardless of what you give to them.
Like any game, there are two players. Take into account that all of the players are responsible for the outcome of the game. If a person perceives you as loving and possess a high self worth, they will base it on their own self worth and example it monetarily. It goes into that people only see in others what they see in themselves. If a person feels bad and sees the flaws in them self, that’s exactly what that person will see in you as their server, acquaintance, friend and even family. How do you think your tip will come out then?, regardless of how you feel about yourself. Actually, there have been times where I’m feeling great about myself and performing really well and a guest will resent me for it showing how much they feel I’m worth to them. However, if someone sees all the good in things then they happen to see the good in you, even if you may feel badly about yourself.
Recently, I served a guest who made a menu choice overly complicated that she was even confusing herself. Had I a low self worth I could have lost my patience or set judgement on her [lowing my vibration] which would result in an discomfort between her and I- creating an disconnect from the rest of her party- resulting in very little money, a heavy head, sulking, seeking approval from co-workers, and so on... Instead, I merely looked at her with a smile and said “Let’s not make this complicated. Here’s what you can do...” and simply gave her clarity on her inquiry. Granted she was making it difficult and the rest of the party, I gather, knows her to do this. I did it with love and received over 20% gratuity from both couples. It’s so easy!
In essence, you can’t win em all. Like energy attracts like energy. In retrospect, you’ll attract those into your world that resemble your energy. It’s time to be honest with yourself and figure out if it’s positive or negative energy. As I see it, the positive people have the most money and are grateful for receiving a service. They’ll pay top dollar to receive great service and I am the one to give it to them. In my experience, they are usually confident, outgoing, outspoken, leaders, doers, givers, etc.. all of positive energy. They are the conduits of flow; givers. I’m always striving to be that to attract that. If there is a negativity, (not that I don’t have that either) those same type of people will relate and enter your world. In my experience, negative people usually hold on to their money and their grudges, have a low self worth and insult others to make themselves feel better. They are the stoppers of flow; takers.
So like any game you play, it takes two players and skill to come out on top. Luck has very little to do with it. When you are the love for yourself to bring to the table and make it completely worth your while, you come out on top. When you make it a win win, you are the king or queen of times. You’re in the zone. You’re in the flow. You are in the moment. You are the love of service and the service of love. You are giving and receiving rather than taking. You are honest. You are one with what is. And when you operate from this space of present moment consciousness, you are ultimately making “Good Money.”
Thank you for taking the time to read my blog posts. I do appreciate all comments and feedback so that I may better your experience and enhance my writing. Feel free to contact me on Facebook or leave a comment below.
Scotty Jay
Like any game, there are two players. Take into account that all of the players are responsible for the outcome of the game. If a person perceives you as loving and possess a high self worth, they will base it on their own self worth and example it monetarily. It goes into that people only see in others what they see in themselves. If a person feels bad and sees the flaws in them self, that’s exactly what that person will see in you as their server, acquaintance, friend and even family. How do you think your tip will come out then?, regardless of how you feel about yourself. Actually, there have been times where I’m feeling great about myself and performing really well and a guest will resent me for it showing how much they feel I’m worth to them. However, if someone sees all the good in things then they happen to see the good in you, even if you may feel badly about yourself.
Recently, I served a guest who made a menu choice overly complicated that she was even confusing herself. Had I a low self worth I could have lost my patience or set judgement on her [lowing my vibration] which would result in an discomfort between her and I- creating an disconnect from the rest of her party- resulting in very little money, a heavy head, sulking, seeking approval from co-workers, and so on... Instead, I merely looked at her with a smile and said “Let’s not make this complicated. Here’s what you can do...” and simply gave her clarity on her inquiry. Granted she was making it difficult and the rest of the party, I gather, knows her to do this. I did it with love and received over 20% gratuity from both couples. It’s so easy!
In essence, you can’t win em all. Like energy attracts like energy. In retrospect, you’ll attract those into your world that resemble your energy. It’s time to be honest with yourself and figure out if it’s positive or negative energy. As I see it, the positive people have the most money and are grateful for receiving a service. They’ll pay top dollar to receive great service and I am the one to give it to them. In my experience, they are usually confident, outgoing, outspoken, leaders, doers, givers, etc.. all of positive energy. They are the conduits of flow; givers. I’m always striving to be that to attract that. If there is a negativity, (not that I don’t have that either) those same type of people will relate and enter your world. In my experience, negative people usually hold on to their money and their grudges, have a low self worth and insult others to make themselves feel better. They are the stoppers of flow; takers.
So like any game you play, it takes two players and skill to come out on top. Luck has very little to do with it. When you are the love for yourself to bring to the table and make it completely worth your while, you come out on top. When you make it a win win, you are the king or queen of times. You’re in the zone. You’re in the flow. You are in the moment. You are the love of service and the service of love. You are giving and receiving rather than taking. You are honest. You are one with what is. And when you operate from this space of present moment consciousness, you are ultimately making “Good Money.”
Thank you for taking the time to read my blog posts. I do appreciate all comments and feedback so that I may better your experience and enhance my writing. Feel free to contact me on Facebook or leave a comment below.
Scotty Jay
Thursday, August 12, 2010
Live Free or Die Tryin
Let’s be honest, ie, to be one with what is. True honesty at it’s best is to simply be. When one receives any sort of tip or gratuity, simply be honest with the result and move along. It’s great to get excited for an abundant tip. One could carry that energy for the rest of the night. On the other hand, it’s difficult to get over a lost or lousy tip. It inflicts our ego when someone didn’t think we were good enough to compensate us for our service. Then start on the why’s of the situation. The funny thing that stems from this is that we already know why. The connection just wasn’t there. That’s just fine for me. I know I can’t please everyone all the time, but as long as I come from love, I can win over more and more people. This is the beginning of the many factors that go into the psychology of tipping.
Expectations lead to disappointment. I’ll just say that right out. People come to restaurants with expectations written all over them. But it’s not their expectations but rather your standard you want to be conscious of. As a server, set a standard for yourself and live up to it. We also have expectations of our guests; like we’re supposed to get 18% on every table no matter what. It’s pure judgement; but only you are only accountable for you. People pay for the food but they buy the service! That’s your queue. When you have a high standard then people will get that through an exchange of energy called service. (Remember how money is energy) They know they are going to buy food but they haven’t determined the gratuity until the fat lady sings. The tip is feedback; priceless!
Service is also considered to be the highest form of love. Think of when you gladly help out the people in your circle of influence; why do you do it? Love is a ‘Give and Receive’ relationship. It’s important to mentally note how the guests are responding to you; what they’re giving and receiving from you and what you are giving and receiving from them. It doesn’t matter how much resistance I receive from my guests, I always come from the space of love and service. This being a cause, to provide great service. The effect: great money. All the steps in between are all the ‘why’s that we beat ourselves up with trying to figure it out. The truth is we’re only paid what we’re worth. We have the capability to be worth more or worth less (worthless) depending upon how we feel about ourselves. Keep cool and unruffled; do not let the opinion of others determine your self-worth.
Once, I received a message on the bill that read “Here’s a tip for you, Scott..” I didn’t even proceed to read the rest of it. I knew it was someone who was angry that I had not lived up to THEIR expectations. I knew that if I had read it and taken it personally, it would have let that person’s opinion affect my self determined worth. Let’s face the facts: that's going to happen no matter what! So why let it be such a burden on yourself? Even with just no tip, feelings of low self worth come into play. I’ve let such actions ruin my entire night before, even after I’ve left the restaurant. I chose into it.
Choosing to struggle over the ‘why’ of the situation keeps ones energy down. When energy is down, we take it from other people to harness for ourselves. This is called being a taker. In the act of love being a give and receive exchange of energy, being a taker puts a stop to the flow; thus creating a result that people ‘in flow’ don’t want to be around. I’ve spent 20 years of my life stopping flow and not being honest with the results until the past few years. It’s all a matter of perception. Trust yourself to know the answer instead of struggling over it like I have and still sometimes do. Know for a fact that people can feel that judgement of yourself reflecting on them. Every cause has an effect, you want the effect to be making “good money.” The cause lies deep within how you feel about yourself. Be honest and ask yourself “How do I truly feel about myself?”
The first step to living free, or you'll just die trying.
To be continued...
Until next time, Gadget!...
Expectations lead to disappointment. I’ll just say that right out. People come to restaurants with expectations written all over them. But it’s not their expectations but rather your standard you want to be conscious of. As a server, set a standard for yourself and live up to it. We also have expectations of our guests; like we’re supposed to get 18% on every table no matter what. It’s pure judgement; but only you are only accountable for you. People pay for the food but they buy the service! That’s your queue. When you have a high standard then people will get that through an exchange of energy called service. (Remember how money is energy) They know they are going to buy food but they haven’t determined the gratuity until the fat lady sings. The tip is feedback; priceless!
Service is also considered to be the highest form of love. Think of when you gladly help out the people in your circle of influence; why do you do it? Love is a ‘Give and Receive’ relationship. It’s important to mentally note how the guests are responding to you; what they’re giving and receiving from you and what you are giving and receiving from them. It doesn’t matter how much resistance I receive from my guests, I always come from the space of love and service. This being a cause, to provide great service. The effect: great money. All the steps in between are all the ‘why’s that we beat ourselves up with trying to figure it out. The truth is we’re only paid what we’re worth. We have the capability to be worth more or worth less (worthless) depending upon how we feel about ourselves. Keep cool and unruffled; do not let the opinion of others determine your self-worth.
Once, I received a message on the bill that read “Here’s a tip for you, Scott..” I didn’t even proceed to read the rest of it. I knew it was someone who was angry that I had not lived up to THEIR expectations. I knew that if I had read it and taken it personally, it would have let that person’s opinion affect my self determined worth. Let’s face the facts: that's going to happen no matter what! So why let it be such a burden on yourself? Even with just no tip, feelings of low self worth come into play. I’ve let such actions ruin my entire night before, even after I’ve left the restaurant. I chose into it.
Choosing to struggle over the ‘why’ of the situation keeps ones energy down. When energy is down, we take it from other people to harness for ourselves. This is called being a taker. In the act of love being a give and receive exchange of energy, being a taker puts a stop to the flow; thus creating a result that people ‘in flow’ don’t want to be around. I’ve spent 20 years of my life stopping flow and not being honest with the results until the past few years. It’s all a matter of perception. Trust yourself to know the answer instead of struggling over it like I have and still sometimes do. Know for a fact that people can feel that judgement of yourself reflecting on them. Every cause has an effect, you want the effect to be making “good money.” The cause lies deep within how you feel about yourself. Be honest and ask yourself “How do I truly feel about myself?”
The first step to living free, or you'll just die trying.
To be continued...
Until next time, Gadget!...
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